Tuesday, December 27, 2011

The Clock is Ticking

And by clock, I mean my biological clock.  For many, many years I didn't even want kids.  My fiance and I decided we didn't want kids.  My last boyfriend and I determined we didn't want kids.  But then something started to change for me.

Towards the end of our relationship I actually started feeling some slight urges of wanting children.  I actually starting liking some of my friends children, when before they had just been nuisances.  I realized that I might actually want them for myself someday.

In less than two months I turn 35.  Trying to conceive after age 35 is more challenging than when a woman is younger because there is a decline in fertility.  Women will often not ovulate during their regular cycle, and egg quality and quantity decline in your 30s and 40s.  Miscarriage is also more common in women over 35.  There is a 20-35% chance of miscarriage, and it is often caused by an increased incidence of chromosomal abnormalities.  (It is estimated that 10-25% of all pregnancies in any age woman result in miscarriage.)  It can also take a woman longer to get pregnant after age 35.  The average time it takes to conceive is 1-2 years.

So, here I am at almost 35.  No husband, no boyfriend, nobody I've even texting with who could become a boyfriend, and absolutely no prospects.  My eggs are getting older by the hour.  It will likely take me a long time to meet someone who I'd even think of marrying and having kids with and then it will probably take me a long time to get pregnant.  I could be 40 before it happens!  I don't even want to look at the statistics for conceiving after 40.

So that means I need to get busy finding someone.  What fun it will be telling any suitors that I want kids and that I want them soon!  Well, here goes nothing!

Friday, December 16, 2011

What Perfume Are You Wearing?

For some reason, people really like this perfume on me.  I'm constantly being asked, "What perfume are you wearing?"  So here it is - Chanel Chance Eau Fraiche.  I love it.  Sometimes I'll even put a spray on before I go to bed because I love it so much.  This is what Chanel has to say about it:

"CHANCE Eau FraĆ®che, a vibrant incarnation of the unexpected fragrance, now takes on a sparkling freshness. The unexpected floral bursts with a lightness and zest as notes of citrus, Water Hyacinth and Jasmine Absolute are highlighted and energized with woody notes of Amber of Patchouli and Fresh Vetiver."

I'm kind of surprised about the Patchouli because usually I hate the smell of it, but it must be good combo with the Water Hyacinth and Jasmine and Vetiver.

Check it out - it's yummy!

Tuesday, December 6, 2011

Read Single Dad Laughing - Dan Pearce

Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing Blog Writer

A few weeks ago somebody on Facebook posted a link to a blog called "I'm Christian, Unless You're Gay".  At first I thought, what the hell is this?  But I took the time to click on the link and read the blog.  I'm so glad that I did.  Dan wrote this post after finding out that a friend of his, who happens to be gay, felt like he was alone in the world - because he was gay.  He felt friendless and hated.  People in their community had turned their backs on him because he was gay; turned away from him under the premise that their religion abhorred who he was because of his sexual orientation.  Dan's post talked about how many people say they're Christian and uphold all sorts of Christian-like values, unless a person is gay.  That's not very Christ-like.  It's wrong and hurtful.  Read his post here

This blog post has received so much traffic and response.  Some of the responses have been incredible and some have been disgusting.  Dan posted many of the responses to share with his readers.  Read those here:

I wouldn't ever be able to accurately describe the reactions people had to his post, so I won't even try.  I tear up often when reading them.  And the response make me realize how wonderful the people in my life are.  My sister and one of my aunts are gay.  It doesn't change at all who they are to me or what kind of relationship I have with them.  Nobody in my family or any of my closest friends have "disowned" them because they are gay.  It makes no difference to any of us.  

We grew up Catholic.  Though some of us (my sister and I) are not really religious anymore, lots of my family members and friends are still active in the Catholic church.  And I know that the Catholic church doesn't really approve of homosexuality.  I don't know exactly what it's stance is because I chose not to be religious and don't really go to church anymore.  But those family members who do still go church don't let it's beliefs on homosexuality change how they feel about my sister or my aunt.  I'm so thankful for that.  I'm so thankful that my sister has never felt this kind of hatred from people who once said they loved her.  I'm so thankful that when she came out, she didn't lose the people she loves.  I'm so thankful that just because she is gay, it didn't change her in our eyes.  I'd bet she's thankful for all of this, too.  

A while ago I posted a review of Jodi Picoult's book "Sing Me Home".  I quoted one of my favorite lines from the book, which I've posted again here:
"Jesus didn't make exceptions, Max.  He didn't say we're supposed to love ninety-eight percent of our neighbors...but hate the ones who play their music too loud or who always drive over our lawn or who vote for Ralph Nader or who get tattooed from head to toe.  There may be days I don't really want to love the guy whose dog ate the heads off my day lilies, but Jesus says I don't have a choice.  It's not love if there are conditions."

I think it totally applies to this post, too.  I've linked to Dan's post because I think it is so powerful.  I want more people to read it.  I want it to affect people.  I want people to realize hate is wrong.  Especially under the guise of religion.